The Problems with Dating

     

Compiled by Nathan Bailey

  

  

Why do people feel so strongly about these issues? Because the "dating game" is such a dangerous game to play! Whether you are the predator or the prey, you are quite likely to be hurt by the recreational dating scene. Some may come out unscarred from the pit of snakes, but is that any reason to walk through it?

   

Dating promotes lust and moderate s_xual* activity, opening the door for fornication.

   

Dating develops a self-centered, feeling-oriented concept of love.

   

Dating creates a permanent endorphin-bond between two people who will not spend their lives together.

   

Dating teaches people to break off difficult relationships, conditioning them more for divorce than marriage.

   

Dating creates a standard of comparison by which mates are first chosen, but after marriage rejected.

   

Dating develops an appetite for variety and change, creating dissatisfaction within marriage.

   

Dating causes late marriages, leaving more time for falling into sins associated with singleness.

   

Dating destroys fellowship, leaving Christians alienated and ineffective uncooperative ministry.

   

Dating lacks the protections and guidance afforded by parental involvement of courtship.

   

Dating doesn't prepare children to face "life's realities" ~ it warps life's realities!

   

Dating devalues s_x and marriage.

   

Dating leads to intimacy but not necessarily to commitment.

   

Dating tends to skip the "friendship" stage of a relationship.

   

Dating often mistakes a physical relationship for love.

   

Dating often isolates a couple from other vital relationships.

   

Dating, in many cases, distracts young adults from their primary responsibility of preparing for the future.

   

Dating can cause discontentment with God's gift of singleness.

   

Dating creates an artificial environment for evaluating another person's character.

   

 

These problems are extracted from "Dating: Is It Worth the Risk?" by Reb Bradley; "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris; "Dating, Betrothal and Courtship" by Dr S. M. Davis, "Dating vs. Courtship" by Paul Jehle, and various posts to the "Courtship Ring" mailing list. Please see the list of resources for details of where to access these resources! (From Barb:  This list Nathan mentions is accessible on the internet at the address given below.)

 

   

   

     

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* I have deleted the "e" from the word "s_x" because certain servers, in an attempt to keep web surfing safe and pure for their customers, block any web pages ~ even entire sites ~ from being accessed if they contain "that word."  My web site is hardly one for Christian families wanting to deepen their walks with God or help their children purify their relationships to avoid!

    

   

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