I, (Barb Shelton, Tory's mom) wrote this in early 1998, when Tory was in the middle of his last year of high school.
Tory and I are working together to complete his "Basketball Notebook" which has now grown to include several sections. The most useful one for me ~ in fact, he did it for me ~ is the "Basketball for Dummies" section where the whole game is explained! There's even a Glossary of terms. The key to this is that he has to make the definitions understandable to me! ;-D This has been cumbersome for him, with him at times saying "Oh Mom, I don't need to put that in! Everyone knows that!" to which I answer: "Not your mom! And you're doing this so that I - even I ~ can understand it! We didn't call this section "Basketball for Dummies" for nothing, you know!"
making a section on the Basketball Museum that Dave visited and took pictures of when we were in Springfield,
Massachusetts (where I spoke at a homeschool convention). Yes, Dave took the pictures, but Tory formatted captions for each on the computer
~ excellent experience.
I mentioned the above to the wife of Tory's basketball coach who told me her husband made a basketball scrapbook when he was young and she and her son (who loves basketball like his daddy) have thoroughly enjoyed going through it! What a blessing to get this kind of input!
to continue my little speech to Tory: "So, even if you aren't doing it for
yourSELF, there are others who will enjoy and/or benefit from it, and YOU, in the process of making it, are learning some things you will need for life."
We had talks about whether or not Tory had what it takes to go on in basketball, specifically to college basketball. Dave didn't think he did, which he discussed very kindly and tenderly with Tory. And, while Tory agreed, he didn't want to give up trying until he'd given it his all. So he went away to a week-long Point Guard College (held at a college campus), and practiced as much as he could. This year it paid off, and he came out shining. (Remember we are back in early 1998 here.)
But I was still dragging my feet at the beginning, balking
(sorta quietly) at having to rearrange dinners around his practices, and still not wanting to travel to any "away" games. Well, the Lord convicted me and showed me that I needed to just "get on
board" with him! This would mean cheerfully arranging dinner times around his practices and
not balking at them. And it meant going to his "away" games cheerfully. (The only two we aren't going to are
three hours away.) Guess what, I can hardly WAIT for the next game!!!!
Even "away" ones!!
Then the lights went on! I guess I did! I had not been wild about basketball! ~ which had to be affecting him! I think the term "wet blanket" might have fit. But once I made up my mind to do it (okay, only after being convicted by the Holy Spirit to do so), I gained ~ or the Lord put into my heart ~ a real delight for the game. And my new-birthed delight has been a delight for Tory as well! And it has opened all sorts of new conversational avenues! )
Once again it boils down to our own walk with God, doesn't it?!?!
We teach by example, not (so much) by precept. I'm even finding myself "surfing the net" hunting down basketball web sites, and then showing him.
I found one called "10 Rules for Basketball Parents." Ouch! Some of those rule hurt!!
And this is going in his notebook too!
Here are all the sections of his notebook:
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